Happy new year!!!

Lets invite the wonderful new year and bid a warm bye to old. Wish you all a very happy and prosperous new year 2010.

Jus like that

One of my blogger friend published this Q&A. Felt like publishing mine too. Thus the comparison starts here like this..

1. Were the pregnancies planned?
1st: Yes
2nd: Yes

2. Was I married at the time?
1st: Yes
2nd: Yes

3. Reactions?
1st: Happiness
2nd: Happiness

4. Abortion an option?
1st: No
2nd: No

5. My age then?
1st: x-4
2nd: x-1
x being my age hi hi hi

6. How did I find out?
Sort of suspected both times, because we started planning.
1st: Pregnancy test at home
2nd: Pregnancy test at home

7. Who did I tell first?
1st: Dear MM tested ;-)
2nd: Dear MM tested ;-)

8. Due dates?
1st: November 18th 2006
2nd: August 17th 2009

9. Morning sickness?
1st: Lots and lots of throwing, tiredness, headache, giddiness, mood swings, stress and what not...
2nd: Same as the 1st

10. Cravings?
1st: Mangoes and Nungu..
2nd: Lots and lots of cravings... I even wrote a post about them..

11. What/who irritated me?
1st: MM
2nd: MM

12. And the children are...
nm is precious while mm is priceless EVERYWAY...

13. Did I wish they were boy/girl?
1st: I wanted a girl
2nd: I wanted a girl

14. How many pounds did I gain?
1st: 6kgs
2nd:5.2kgs

15. Baby shower?
1st: Yes
2nd: Yes

16. Surprise or not?
1st: No
2nd: No

17. Complications?
1st: Low lying placenta and Failure to progress while labor so had a c-section..
2nd: Umbilical cord around the baby's neck but delivered safely.

18. Where did I give birth?
1st: Gunasekaran Nursing home, Chennai India.
2nd: Norwalk Hospital, Norwalk US.

19. How many hours in labour?
1st: active labour, 9 hours
2nd: active labour, 9 hours

20. Who drove me to the hospital?
1st: My mom and I took an auto-riskshaw later joined by everyone in the family, actually the clinic was crowded by my family mems ;-)
2nd: MM drove me to the hospital

21. Who watched me give birth?
1st: Doctors
2nd: MM and Doctors

22. Natural or c-sec?
1st: C- Sec
2nd: Natural

23. Pain medication taken?
1st: None till complications developed and then anesthesia for C-Sec
2nd: Took epidural.

24. Weight of the babies?
1st: 3.2 kgs
2nd:3 kgs

25. When were they born?
1st: November 5th, 2006
2nd: August 8th, 2009

26. What did we name them?
1st: mm
2nd: nm

27. How old are they?
1st: 3 years, 1 months and 3 weeks old
2nd: 4 months and 3 weeks old

28. What was our reaction when the doctor announced they were boys?
1st: I thought that doc and MM are playing with me.
2nd: I was told during my 6th month and thought I have to go through the torture again to try for a girl

29. What was my reaction after seeing them first time?
1st: He was so soft as rose petals, I kissed him(so felt him)
2nd: He was very soft and looked yellow and tiny.

30. Did you cry?
1st: No
2nd: Yes, was worried about mm, so cried...

Thats all for now. will update other comparisons later ;-)

New branch in our tree...

We were blessed with a baby boy on Saturday 8th of August. Let me call him nm. I was expecting a c-section, as I had a c-section with my first baby. Thank God, I had a normal delivery and the baby is fine. The entire process was like walking in hell, finally reached heaven...Now I understood, in spite of all the pain why people prefer normal delivery.

I missed mm very much when I was in hospital and was crying. When MM brought mm to the hospital, I was relaxed a bit. mm was excited and started playing peek-a-boo with nm. It was lovely seeing them like that.

mm liked his brother and he missed both me and his father while we were in hospital. But I know he will manage without us. I was very worried about his possessiveness. But he ruled out that concept (touch wood) I am very proud of him, how easily he took another boy in his mom's lap in which he played all his life. He will wait patiently untill I am done with nm then he will come to my lap for my hugs. It is I who will break when he sleeps near me waiting. It really feels awful when I cannot give myself to one while handling the other one.

nm is soooo sweet. He dint trouble me while birth, comparing to mm. He weighed just 3 kgs. He was very cute just like mm and was yellow and tiny. He was very small even mm looked like a body builder, when compared(mm is very small when compared to other kids of his age). Nothing much to say about nm as all he does is drinking milk and sleeping. - again, again and again.

I was all tired and dizzy and crampy all the time. Took lots of pain killer. Lot of mood swing, stress, pressure, hunger. Every odd feeling ruled me and I directed everything towards MM. And he, like a Grandpa was advising me with a pat on shoulder. oops that is another story..

At last I gave birth to another kid too. And my new branch in our tree is pleasantly growing.

Silly, Silly dreams

Yesterday I had a dream. I was not happy and was telling it to my hubby...

Me: Hey, in my dream you married another gal.
MM: Really?
Me: Hmm.. (So sad)
MM: Was she beautiful?
Me: Hmm..
MM: Was she young?
Me: Hmm..
MM: Will she meet my expectations?
Me: Hmm..
MM: Then fine..(He continued working in his laptop)
Me: Errrrrrr.....(Evil MM, Bulbayum Bunayum mix panni koduthutaan )

After reading all my posts about dreams, people will definitely think that I am sleeping a lot. But I rarely sleep for the past 8 - 9 month, even if I sleep I get worst, silly nightmares and I get lots of bulbs from MM while explaining them to hiim. (Paavam manushan evlo than poruthukuvaar)

Actually, my doctor advised us to take care of mm after child birth, as he will be depressed due to the arrival of a new kid... While trying to explain the kid's mentality, she suddenly asked me, "How will you feel, when your husband brings his new wife in to the home"... That was more than enough for me to have silly dreams...

Vunnai mudhalil kanda andha thirunaal

This is how a patikattu girl from chennai, met a pattikattan from Madurai.

I was wide awake, but inside the bed sheet in my bed. People started coming and my mother was nagging me to get up and take bath. I dint want to get up or see anyone coming or get married to some unknown fellow. I just wanted to be like all my friend happily doing their studies and enjoying life. I was crying.. My mom reported to my dad. I was very scared. If my dad says a single word, I will die for him. hmm. He came and asked what my problem was. I told him, that I don't want to be married. He said, "People will come and see you and you will be married to that boy, if only you like him and want to marry him and no one will disturb you or your studies before/after the marriage". Hmm. I got up, took bath, dressed in a nice cotton Saree. All the grandmas started to complain to my dad.. Hmm Again I changed to a nice silk Saree and lots of jewels, flowers etc...

Suddenly a crowd of people invaded our home... Some 25-30 members.. Ooops we were living in a single bedroom flat and we already had relatives at our home.... My sister was standing in the bathroom and my parents/brother outside our home and me with lots of strangers. Lots of women, girls, kids around me and I was blinking, searching for my mom.. Everyone was looking at me, they even introduced themselves to me and started to chat. My small brain was filled with their names and their relation to me.. I was struggling for breath while someone asked me to go and sit in the hall. The hall was already filled with lots and lot of people. I was thinking like, on whom, shall I sit ;-) They finally created some space for a chair and made me sit in it. They asked me to see the boy. I was irritated but could not show off anything. There was three guys sitting in front of me. Ooops I cant marry three guys.. Two of them had fair complexion. Myself being a black beauty, the third would be the guy for me. He was looking at me curiously.. Hmm, so he is going to be the guy, I have to know, understand, love, marry, share, adjust and live with all through my life. He looked decent and friendly. He suddenly got up and went outside. And again everyone started to talk with me and I was stammering for words, to answer.

My appa came and asked me, whether I would like to talk with the boy, as he wants to talk with me. I could see a "say ok" type of face in my dad. I said ok. Our bedroom was cleared and his two sisters were with us and he started to talk with me.. I still remember Everything... It was like the first ray of sun, warm and pleasant. I was very much impressed. Hmm.. 30 minutes before I was against a marriage and now I cant afford to loose such a guy.

I was asked for my opinion by my father-in-law. I blinked for a second and said that I want to be married a year later. They said, "whatever u wish for". (later I regretted for asking such a short term)

And MM gave me some Chocolates and asked for my mail id and other ways of communication channels and took some snaps and started to chat with me like I am his friends. I was thinking like, Is this really happening???
My parents gave sweets and snacks to everyone and everyone was happy.

An hour flew like a second. The whole bunch of people started to leave, as MM had to leave for his office. They all said bye and started to leave and this guy MM, was standing sending everyone into the car and was waiting for me.. Is it the love, which made me feel that he is waiting outside to say bye to me. I went outside and said bye to him. Everyone started to laugh at both of us.. Ooops embarrassing, Who cares, I waved to myman.... The day started like a mess and went on heavenly..

Now those two pattikadus are leading their life with two(one on the way) kids in US.. Hmm sounds interesting...

Our kids will have fun telling this story to their friends.

Today is the day, I met u my love... This seven years went like seven beautiful minutes, with a kid playing and a kid kicking.. Though we face ups and downs(lots of downs, u stupid), when I say, hey seven yrs acchu da vunna parthu, it feels like seventh heaven my dear..

Continuation of a polambal

Today I had appointment with the doctor. Poor MM was very sad all the week. He had lot of office work and was working late night daily. So I dint expect him to come with me to the clinic. It was raining heavily and he dropped me in front of the clinic. As I was talking with the counselor, he came in all wet.. What happened to him, in a week time? Hmm.. silence or denial of information???

MM does not want to be disturbed while he is with his first wife (I mean his computer) or while watching TV. Even I dont want to be disturbed while I am talking with my parents. The only difference is I have a lot of time and he dont. So whenever he finds time, he wants to entertain himself. Whatever be the reason, he should have come with me to the clinic(hi hi evil me). But he is feeling miserable and I cant let my beloved hubby like that. As elders say, Wife has to adjust most of the time >;-)

Non-stop Polambals

Today I had an appointment with my gynecologist. This was our dialogue.

MM: I will take work at home and will take you to the clinic
Me: Its just 15 mins walk from here, I will go on my own.
MM: Why are you straining yourself? I will take you.
Me: Okay paa.. ( Aha evlo nalla pathukaran, he loves me a lot)

Just before leaving to the clinic..
MM: Do you want me to come with you?
Me: What?
MM: I will stay in the car..
Me: what are you going to achieve with those precious/saved 30 mins?
MM: I will do something with the laptop.. Do you want me inside with you?
Me: (irritated) Your wish... ( I am not a cripple, I would have walked)
After a while,
MM: Do you want me to come inside?
Me: If you feel like, come. Don't ask me... (Are you my driver?)

Some volcano was rising up inside me and I was thinking, if he doesn't come inside..............

At last he dint come inside, I was dropped in front of the clinic and he was in the car, nondifying the laptop.. So he dint feel like coming in...

I don't have anyone to take care of me. He don't love me. He got all the time to bid in some auction site all the day, play games in his new play station and chat with all his friends/relatives and pick beautiful deals for them in net. But doesn't want to waste/spend some 30 mins for his wife, who is 36 weeks pregnant, fully tired and in pain.. Ethu than vulagam..
If my mom were with me, she wont have left me alone and I wont have bothered about this stupid man at all.. I miss my mom. Too late to think about such things..

Evil Me dint tell him, what the doctor told. Hi hi hi. Tit for Tat.