Siru thuli peru vellam.... Isn't it true???

Savings... It is a very good habit. I feel, one should save at least 1/10 of his/her salary for the future. But the problem is, i do not earn, how can i save? i can save MM's earning. But MM is against savings. He does not want to save. He hates savings. Here comes the problem between husband and wife... Oh man, what are you going to do after your retirement?? He says lots of plane, but he does nothing but spending every penny in latest gadgets and other like etc...

As usual, like all the women, i too use to compare MM with my dad.

My dad used to save 1/5 of his earning. He decently supported our education, financially (all three of us me, my sis, my brother) and we had a nice life and childhood. He bought 5 houses(1 in chennai and others in our native town). So he can comfortably retire now. He is waiting for my brother to take the responsibility. Once my brother starts to earn he will retire peacefully. I would not say, that he invested his money properly. but considering his free time, knowledge about investment, amount he saved, the way he invested was excellent. But he never had time to enjoy this world. He never even goes to cinema or a hotel or to beach. No enjoyment at all. He knows how to run his business. thats it. Anyway, he is going to retire soon. He even got ideas to visit US and North India. Lets see how it goes.

Coming to my husband, He was/is never taught to save. And it is hereditary(his father, grandfather, the list goes). So he never believes in savings and investing. I do not want him to save 1/10 of his earning.. At least, 1/20 or 1/30 or 1/40. ha ha ha. If he is willing, i will even reduce to, like 1/100th :P I want MM to enjoy this world, see places, buy new gadgets, gift people but at the same time, i want him to save too. Lets see how it goes.

Like everyone, my dad is my superhero and for MM too, his dad is his superhero. I try to follow my dad and he try to follow his dad. Both the dads, did their duties properly and are happy now, leaving us fighting with each other ;-)

By the way, my Dad own a potty shop, where he sells banana and vethalai pakku and MM's Dad used to do brokerage(he is retired now).

"There is time for everything" It is a quote introduced by my best friend J. I try to follow it, but most of the time, I fail.. I am here in US with my kid and She is in India, newly married and conceived. I could not find the best time to call her. When i am free to call her, it becomes an odd time for her and vice versa. I think she too would have stopped following that quote, otherwise, she would have called me ;-)

Anyway this quote was originally by Thomas Alva Edison..

Vazhi mel vizhi vaithu kathirukireen

It is 11.28 pm here and MM is not at home. He went to meet the auditor to file the tax. mm is sleeping. I am waiting for MM to come. To be honest, i am writing and reading and enjoying blogs along with some black tea.. Enjoying my loneliness hi hi. If MM would have been here, he wont have let me use the computer. I done know what this IT professionals do with their computer. From morning to midnight, he is always with his laptop. He always have some or other things to do with the sys. He even takes the laptop to bathroom. During day times, mm wont let me use the computer. But that is reasonable. what else can you expect from a 16 month kid(who is alone at home). mm slept by 9.45 and i am using the sys for the past 2 hrs(nearly) successfully after a long time(i think after my delivery). Waiting for MM???... (Naaaaaaaaaaah) ;-)

Travel to India.

We are going to India for attending my SIL's marriage. (its a love marriage. will post about it later) Ticket costs 2400$. As an average Indian housewife, i convert it in to INR and often complain. But our friends say, that it is a good deal. Everyone in India are eagerly waiting for us( > ;-) for mm) We will be in India for 5 weeks. i am expecting lots of good time there. Lets see how it goes. If my memory dint fail me, i will post each and every bit of interesting incidents there.

Mean behaviour

I often go to library to take some books for mm and for myself. Sometimes i take dvds too.. Their services are excellent. They have a program called Story telling. The program goes like this. They have a small room for the kids. They will open the room by 10AM. The room will have lots of toys and the kids will be allowed to play with the toys. By 10.30, someone from the library will sing rhymes and tell stories to the kids. The kids can sing along with them. The program is divided in to three types ie from 12 month to 23 month, above 2 yrs and 3 to 5 yrs likewise. As mm is 16 months old, i attend the first type of program.

Today we went to library to attend the kids program for mm. Usually, two ladies comes to play the rhymes and stories. Today some other lady came. From the beginning, she behaved very mean. She was irritated when the kids get down from their parent's lap, she also asked not to feed the kid, when the kids tried to open the book, she grabbed the books from them, when the kids cried, she showed face, she was looking at the clock often to know the time to finish the program. A few parents left the room before the program ends. i was little patient as she dint show face on mm. Though, if MM was in my place, he would have given strong dosage to cure her. i still do not understand how she expected a 12 month old kid to be quiet and calm.
The program is free, but it does not mean that she is doing it for free. She is paid for everything. And we are paying tax from which she is paid. I do not know, how to complain about this to the library management. I have to find out a way, if this happens again....

Kiss

My life has become cool, interesting, meaningful and exciting after mm's arrival. I am really happy that i could not even sleep. mm is 16 months old. i never asked him to kiss me. His father asks him for a kiss and mm wont kiss him and they both will be fighting.
For the past 2 days mm gave his father some flying kisses. MM was really kicked to have them. I suddenly got the urge to ask him a kiss and told "Amma ku kiss kodu". I was thinking that he may run away or he may not feel like to kiss me or he may not understand. He slowly walked to me and gave me a kiss in my cheeks. Oh God!!!! Heavenly, i dint expect that. Those two small lips kissing me making artificial sound in the mouth.
At that instant, i am the happiest person in the world. Do i need, anything else???

Bad news!

I was talking with my friend A after a long time. She was saying all funny stories about her and about her family. While we were talking about our friends, she suddenly told that bad news. One of my best friend H's baby died due to some difficulty in the delivery. I felt very sorry for her. i could imagine her loss and the pain she would have been in. How much she would have dreamed about the kid. Oh god...
A told me that H is not picking up the calls. She should be depressed. I am praying for that bud, who was not blessed by God to bloom. Let the kid's soul rest peacefully. I hate to hear or know the news of death. It is natural, Everyone dislikes death even though all are going to die.

My mind pattern

I saw a website where it would print our mind pattern and will list its characteristics.

The pattern given by that website --
Your mind is a firestorm - full of intensity and drama.
Your thoughts may seem scattered to you most of the time...
But they often seem strong and passionate to those around you.
You are a natural influencer. The thoughts you share are very powerful and persuading.

Lets see how others think about me. I cant ask them about my mind pattern, i am listing what they told about me.

MM -- "You are a complex creature, u will never reveal yourself, no one can understand u, even if I did, it is wrong most of the time. Like a cornered cat, u will behave irrationally. No one can predict what u do or why u do. Always demanding attention and love."

MyMom -- You are always a kid, but a matured kid. Handling your siblings, taking care of me and appa.

MyCloseFriends -- Always Smiling and Playing. Simple and Lovable and Caring. Easy going and Cool and Tension free and Sleepy and Narrative..

MyOtherFriends -- Smiley, Simple, Lovable and Cool.

MyRelatives(pirandha veedu(my parent's place)) -- Chamathu, Smiley face and a Good girl.

MyRelatives(pugundha veedu(in-laws place)) -- Sleepy, Sombheri, Friendly and a Nice girl.

Manjari --
The pattern given by website is correct according to me. i done know how the others feel.
Actually speaking i am a dreamer. I will have some or other thing in my mind always. I dream a lot or plan a lot but if i find a single block in my path, thats it. i am done. I will pack the plans in my stack and will concentrate on the block...
I will react to everything and anything. I can never act to my loved ones. And also i done know what i am. I never planned my life or my studies or my career. I let my life to go on its way. I am cool and tension free most of the time. I am a learner always. I love people around me but not all the time. i will listen to people when they want to talk. I like to tell all the stories(which happened in my life ie frustrating moments and sad stories) to people i love.
I am afraid of dark and my nightmares and a lot of other things too. I have a very sensitive heart, which cannot take shocks. I am little careless. I can never tolerate humiliations, will react vigorously to it.. I am patient but will give 'tit for tat' after a few 'tit's. I can do only one job at a time. ie i cant do multiprogramming.
Normally i will be a nice girl to be with. I am simple, ain't I? ;-)

Gayathri mantra

I done know why now-a-days my mind goes spiritually. When i tell about this to MM, he is laughing at me saying, you are getting old.
It was before 4 yrs, I went to an Yoga class when I was compelled to join by my in-laws. So i never concentrated in the class. Just like that i completed it. But now i am doing all the things told by my guru. No one asked me to do. I am saying "OM" the sacred mantra. I am doing all asanas and pranayamas taught by my guru. My guru dint taught me the gayathri mantra but i browsed the net and got it. And i am reciting it in the mornings...

I am giving the mantra here:

"Om Bhoor Bhuva swaha
Tat savitur varennyam
Bhargo Dhevasya Dheemahee
Dhiyo yo nah pracodayat"

It has to be recited 3 times in the morning and 3 times in the noon and 3 times before the sun sets. Or else we can recite it for 108 times if time permits.

26 yrs is not an age to say prayers and meditation. But now-a-days my mind always revolve around meditation and prayer. It gives a different feeling, a peace of mind and happiness. A few times, i feel that MM may be right, I may be old.