Mom & Dad Europe trip - (Actually, the topic should be => Without Mom & Dad for 15 teary days)

This blog will not say anything about my parent's trip but my ability to handle the situations alone during the trip days ;)

On Sep 15, 2018, My Mom and Dad started their Europe trip by 5 am in the morning and I became the Lady in charge of my house.

Since my kids were having the quarterly exams, I requested leave for 10 days. And my gracious supervisor had granted the same (God bless him). I let out a word that I will work on the GSDs from home (Loose lips sinks ships, isn't it?).

Once my parents left, I became the polite, well behaved, responsible, lady of the home. I neatly swept the room, mopped, washed the dishes and the home was a heaven on the first day.  Kids went to music class, read for some time and then we three watched some movie and a show.. though it was a pleasant day as night started, I started to worry.  I was the only elder in the whole building itself.. Oops.. I am even scared of my own SHADOW & now I have to handle 15 such nights..

Next day, I washed all the vessels and neatly arranged everything.. The house was so neat and I dint feel like cleaning it again. We had food, had a chat, fought and watched a movie and went to sleep.. Again started the dreadful night and I was finding it very difficult to sleep.. I was even scared to come to the hall. Ooops 14 more nights.

Next day, my kids started to the school and I was able to get some time for myself.  I started with my office work.  Oops some 35 tickets in queue.. When I was half done with the tickets, it was 12 pm and mm rang the calling bell.. Ooops I forgot my break fast.. gave him some snacks and started with cooking. Thus my time was running in front of me to handle all the tasks which were thrown at me.. We are in 3rd floor without lift facility, so I had to go down for water, vegetables, groceries and everything else too.

Next day, my dearest friends G and S came to my home for a chit chat. It was good to have them with me. We talked for a very long time and I made chapathis, paneer gravy, sambhar and rice for lunch. Prepared Mysore Pak but it was a mess.  But I packed and gave them to finish it off ;)

Next day, my dear sissy came home to give me company along with her tiny T.  I was calling her daily to say, that I am not sleeping, since it was scary alone. Our home become bright again with people around.  My bro too came to check on me.  I am a person who is always surrounded by people and especially without MOM/DAD, naan romba paavam..

Various next days came and I was handling things with difficulty.  Those are manageable situations but I dint come across for a long long time. My mom, sure is an angel..

I had to attend the calls, open the door for the visitors, attend my dad's customers, listen to the complaints from our tenants, collect rent, water the plant, clean the house, cook food, wash/dry the clothes, Sweep the stairs, Mop the floor, Wash the dish, shop for vegetables and other essential items.  I had to run with my night gown to attend the fire accident that happened due to short circuit (Kashtakaalam/Distress situation) I was going out of breathe. Most importantly make my kids learn for their Quarterly exams(My God). Previously I was talking too much on the home maintenance. I was blabbering to mom that i will turn the home upside down to make it look neat and tidy(Big mouth comedian I am). Though I found some time for myself, it was not enough for me.  I started thinking about MM which was worse.  As days passed, I became rude, uncivilised, reckless and a mere monster as seen by my kids(during the study time).. The GSD tickets, which I agreed to take care haunted me. I dint like the me.. I was scared to the core. I wanted my mom/dad to return soon and to save me from the damage I was causing myself..

On September 30th around 4 pm, my parents returned from their trip.. Wow what a blissful moment. I was the happiest person in the world on that day. I can sleep without any fear the whole night. My parents were happy and they enjoyed the trip. All of us are @ peace now..

Though those were the difficult days for me, I was able to manage it. It gave me time to think about the reality.  I think I should list them here and remember it through my life.

My Understanding during the 15 days.

1. My Parents = My Confidence
2. Raising a child is not easy.
3. There is more in life than work.
4. When you are not there, people will replace you at office.
5. Money cannot buy many things
6. Days are longer when you wait for someone whom you love.
7. Nothing is really lost until moms can't find it. (it is for me too ;))

And talking about other achievements during the 15 days

1. Watched few movies without any disturbance not even advertisements

2. Found time to talk with myself and with my kids(Sub chaltha hey)

3. Lost few pounds. (Later gained the same within a few weeks due to the Swizz chocolates ;))

My Sep 2018 is exciting isn't it??

Tea-holic

I was a TEA Lover.  Now-a-days I am becoming a Tea-holic too.
For me tea goes with mostly everything.  I drink my tea with Biscuit, Muruku, Thatai, Chips,  Friends, Colleagues, Kids, Book, Computer, TV, even with my In-laws..

When can I drink tea? Any time, I drink tea while I get up, while jogging, while my kids play, while traveling, while working. To put it together I drink tea all the time.

I used to drink 6 cups of black tea a day at my seat while I work(at home count is not added).  My TL got so irritated(Whenever she peeks into my seat, I will be sipping tea) She made a rule that no one should have tea at their seat.  And all my colleagues cursed me(you know why) Boys used to tease me saying that I am drinking phenyle/Saraku (black tea) as it supplied free of cost at my office. Thank god, my colleagues does not know about my Turkish tea consumption. While I was in Germany, along with MM and other Friends used to drink Turkish tea continuously for 3 - 4 hrs. (at least 15- 20 cups of tea) Those were blissful days :-)

Once one of my colleague fainted/about to fall due to dehydration and my tea was used as a hydrating tool(Water was not around).  But poor gal, puked and went so furious. She asked me, how I am drinking that black liquid.  I was thinking that she wasted my precious tea. :P

How to make my Tea?
Hot water + Tea bag + a few grains of sugar or without sugar  --> As simple as this.

You can add any other accessories if you really want them.


I have listed some Special teas prepared by my loved ones.

My mom prepares Milk tea with lots and lots of Ginger. I longed for this tea, while I was in Germany/US. Now I am so privileged to drink my mom's tea daily.

My Sister make lite tea with milk. Less Spicy but with lots of love.

My mother-in-law prepares strong herbal tea (with milk) especially for me.

MM once made me tea with Inji mittai can't get such a tea again.. :( We were out of ginger that day)

My close friend A made me green tea at her Patio, I still remember the taste though it was 3 yrs ago. 

One day the boy who supplies tea asked me, why do you drink that dirty colored water? Ooops You too.. I drink tea because it is so healthy and the main reason is I like drinking it. Do we need any other reasons?

Today

My Nemo is 20 months old. Today after MM took Mowgli to school, me and Nemo were playing for a while. As I had bought some plants, I went out to our patio and started to plant them. Suddenly I felt something fishy (usually Nemo will be sticking to me).  I turned around and saw Nemo laughing at me.  Ooops I was locked out in my patio. It was a glass door & he could see me through it.  I begged him to open the door. He laughed at me again(so innocent it was).  I was in my shabby pajama, uncombed hair, dirty hands and with no slippers.  I went to our neighbor, who is an elderly lady and told her everything. Got her phone and called MM.  He told that he left the windows open in the bed room and asked me to go in to the house through the window.  So I went to the Bedroom window and tried to open it. Unfortunately, it had two locks and only one was open and the other was not.  Hmm.. I went to our neighbor and borrowed her phone again and called MM. What can he do, his office was 45 mins away from our house... Anyway he said he will come... Now I have to spend some 45 mins or more(depending upon the traffic situation) in the patio. Fortunately Nemo was in good spirit, he started to play with me.   We were playing Peek-a-boo, Sha boo threes and was singing rhymes. It went for 25 mins. Then he started banging the door to open it. As sun was shining on his eyes, he went to his train & started to play with it. I was praying god, that he should not go inside some other room, where I could not see him. Then he started to play with the DVD player.  One by one he started to play the movies. There were 5 movies in the player and one of them was a movie about volcanoes.  When he played it, it started with a scary sound, he was terrified and was about to come to me, while my Knight in shining armor appeared and rescued my sweet little pumpkin..  He dint get down from his dad for a while..  I thanked my neighbors and came in.. Thus all my day's work was delayed by one hour..

Interestingly, I should thank God for four things

1. Nemo did not  panic / he did not realize that he got locked inside..
2. Our neighbor was at home
3. I remembered MM's cell phone number.
4. The weather was good outside today. lots of birds, blooms and even sun. hi hi.

Today is sure an exciting day isn't it?..

Today

My good friend Mookuthi, sent me a link for a free gardening workshop at Homedepot. I finished all my works and went there in time.  But nobody was there.  I started asking each and every employee, who pass by.  And at last, an elderly women came. She asked me, the type of garden I have.  Ooops.. I do not have a garden.  I just have a patio, where I grow some small plants. I told here about my plants.  She gave me a coupon and said there is going to be a draw on it. And she started explaining lots of things about plants and how to take care of them.. In no time, an hour passed. I was the only one attending the workshop. But when people saw us both talking about plants, they gathered around us and started to listen. When she was done with her explanations, there were some 10-15 people around us.  She handed a coupon to everyone.  She shuffled the counterpart of the coupons and took one out of it. Guess who the winner is??? It is me.  Hi hi hi hi.. I got a big hanging Pelargonium plant.. I was already happy and satisfied with the workshop.  In addition to it, I got a super duper gift too. Isn't it an excellent day, today?..

Eniya Tamil Putthandu Nalvazhthukkal (Tamil New Year wishes)

I used to think Why this much hype for Christmas, Easter or Halloween in this country.. And I also felt that they all target the kids.. I mean like Santa will come leave a gift for the kids and with Easter egg huntings and the Halloween Costumes for the kids etc..  
Last week, I met an Indian woman(North Indian while I am a South Indian) we were chatting.. She was asking how I am preparing for my festival next week. I was literally blinking( I don't know what it was).  Looking at my puzzled face, she told that she was talking about the Tamil new year. Ooops.. And our conversation went on.
Now coming to the point, how will I celebrate Tamil new year??? I used to get up early in the morning, go to temple and greet friends & relatives.. Everyone in Tamilnadu/Tamilian does that.. What is exciting about that? Will my Mowgli or Nemo ever appreciate or enjoy it? Or any other kid/younger generation enjoy it? No way. Will they ever think about it in future.. If they dont enjoy something, how can they pass on that to their younger generation? Now I understood why there is hype for Christmas, Easter or Halloween. They make the Kid to expect/wait for that day and the kids enjoy and appreciate them. And they remember the good time and the excitements they had forever. And they pass on the tradition to their younger generation. Makes sense isn't it?

p.s.: Our Deepavali has Cracker/holiday/snacks and Our Pongal has sugarcane/holiday/snacks, which will excite the kids. The Festivals which is not exciting for kids will definitely die soon. What can I do about that? Nothing much but I made lots of bakshanams(snacks) and drew some kolam and let the kids color them.. hi hi

Today

What will happen if I am left outside my home in the snow, all through this long winter.  I would have died.. Today while cleaning my Patio I saw this Mums plant. I bought it last September and used the flowers for my Kolu. It was still there in my Patio for the past six months in all the snow and freezing rough weather, it has taken all the pain to live..
Today as I was driving Mowgli to his school, I saw a Cop..  I was thinking what will he ask me, if he catches me.  license!!!.   As we were late, I was in my track pant. . And the license was safe in my Jeans hanging in the closet(obviously at home). Oooops... After going home, the first thing I did was keeping my wallet(license) along with my Van key.. Went to library today and selected few books & dvds and I was rubbing my pant for the wallets. But it was with the Van key, which I forgot to take. Oooops.  Run, run, run to home. And I ran driving home ;-) without the license again.

My everyday

5.00 A.M Alarm Buzz
5.15 to 6.00 Pranayama(Breathing exercise)
6.05 to 6.50 Gym
6.55 Water therapy
7.00  Morning chores starts Cooking, Feeding, Dressing up my Mowgli to school
8.25 MM takes Mowgli to school.
8.30-11.45 Feeding, Bathing, Playing with my Nemo, India Calls, Cleaning house, Washing clothes
Nemo used to sleep by 10.30 A.M now-a-days he does not sleep at all.. On Tuesdays he got his Mother Goose program in Library at this time. I go for shopping either on Mondays or Fridays at this time.
11.30 Tea time
11.45 Picking-up my Mowgli.
12.15 Feeding the kids again, Reading books, Playing, Chit chating blah blah...
1.00 Lunch time for me.
2.30-4.30 Kids goes for their nap..
While they sleep, Mail checking, Dhyanam, Farmville, Chatting with friends, Library routines, Blogging and again a Tea.. Now-a-days even Mowgli rarely sleeps.. If he doesn't, that is a real big problem for Nemo to sleep.. He will bang this or that and wake up Nemo. And  Mowgli has his Ice-skating classes on Wednesdays and Swimming classes on Thursdays. So those two days are busy days for me..
4.30-6.00 Kids wake up.. snacks for them, small walk or cycling..
6.30-7.00 Cooking, Dish washing, Grinding blah blah...
7.30 Dinner time.
8.30 Milk for the kids.
9.00 Story/book for the kids
9.30 kids goes to sleep.
This is the perfect routine, I always love.   But mostly my Nemo wont let me go to Gym, by being awake all through the night or exactly by 5 AM .. I think he has an alarm in his body... or Mowgli wakes up exactly by 5.30 AM for his pee-pee and bangs the bathroom door & wakes up Nemo..
I really really wonder, how women work along with their household chores. Some days I will have lots of time to chat with friends and relatives. Some days I will be running here and there with lots of work & that is exactly when I will get call from people saying I am not calling them:-(
I always feel bad about me not working. But the interesting part is that being at home gives me lot of time to spend with my little ones. Let me enjoy the innocence of my kids, as I may not get them as they grow older. At present, I really love being a mom..

Maronen

When we were in Germany,  we used to roam around the city during weekends. While roaming like that during a winter day, we discovered a new nut called Maronen in a street side shop. It was soooo yummy.  They just roasted the nuts in a pan and were selling. For €1 we just got 6 to 7 nuts.. Oops. We started searching for that nut in the grocery shops. I found it FBL(Hi I remember the supermarket's name) MM was so happy when I roasted them at home.   After coming here to US, we get this nuts during the Fall and Winter.  Here it is called chestnuts. Mostly all our weekends during fall/winter, we will be munching these nuts at home.  They say, that these nuts does not have cholesterol and is the only nut having C-vitamin. why dont these yummy nuts grow in India?

Our German friend taught us the correct way to roast those nuts. If someone wants to know: Wipe the nuts and with the flat side down, cut the nuts with a sharp knife and make a 'x' mark.  Preheat the oven to 425 and it will take 25 to 30 minutes for the nuts to be ready. we can easily peel the shell off, when they are warm.  It would be difficult, if it becomes cold. Don't ever loose an opportunity to munch one guys...

Comedian of our home

Mowgli is really a comedian now-a-days..
Last week I put him to sleep and was washing dishes and he came running to me
Mowgli: Amma, I was trying to sleep, but my nose is not working. What should I do?
He had cold..

We went for shopping and as it is winter here, sometimes we shed tear due to cold wind.
Amma:  Do you know, why you are shedding tear?
Mowgli:  Becaaauuuse I drank a lot of water..
He looked so innocent when he said that.  Hats off for his imagination..

Yesterday he got up from his nap and got some tiny dust particle in his eye. It was so irritating for him. he started crying. I told him to close his eye for a while and washed his eye with cold water, but it was still irritating for him.  I asked him to lay down for a while, he started crying saying, "My eye broke, while I was sleeping"..

A few days before, he woke up from his nap, Instead of rushing to the bathroom, he went straight to kitchen, opened the shelf and peed in the trash can. I caught him and he said, "Mommy, we got a new bathroom and a new potty".. He was still sleeping. 
Kids at this stage are soo interesting to be with.   Thank God, that I have enough time to spend/enjoy with them. God bless them to have a bright and interesting future..

Hungry...

This post was written by me during my eighth week of pregnancy. I had enough energy to write it. but could not publish it as i dint feel well suddenly. Dreadful days were those....

Hungry, but cant eat...

Idli and thengai chutney
Pazhaya sadam and sundakaai puli kozhambhu
Puli sadam and thovayal
Neeez thanni
Noongu
Karumbhu
Illaneer and vazhukai
Mutton soup and bone fry
Killimukku maangai

hmm.. I wont get any of them here. I miss them all and most of all, I really miss all my people here. I am hungry but could not eat normally. Its my eighth week of pregnancy. continuous throw ups and morning sickness and giddiness is there. I am taking some tablet to stop vomit but most of the times, it doesn't work. Poor MM, had to cook, wash, clean and take care of mm along with his regular chores. Poor mm, had to adjust with the sleeping time, play time and denied outings by his unfit mom.
Next week, me and mm are traveling to India. Let God give all the power during the travel.

After a very long time

After a very long time, i am hear with my computer, ready to write something.
Lots of things to say..

We happily said bye to 2008 and embraced 2009
I became pregnant again
Was in a bad shape due to morning sickness/Nausea
MM/mm suffered a lot as their wife/mom could not take care of them
MM cooked, cleaned, washed, took care of everything /everyone
Me/mm went to India leaving MM behind
Enjoyed the Shower of love from everyone
Celebrated pongal with our people.
Blessed with Amma's food during pregnancy.
mm went to a small playschool
mm became ill (playschool, lots of kids, very obvious)
MM joined us after one month
Visited everyone in our family
Shifted our house from Kottivakkam to Pallaavaram
It was my sister marriage. Had a great time, meeting everyone, chatting, enjoying.
Was very tired, again mm became ill
Went to Kerala , visited lots and lots of temple and went to Kumarakom(Just me and MM. just like that leaving mm with my in-laws) Had fun but leaving mm behind was very disturbing
Got a hibiscus plant for my mom
My Vallaikappu was done there in my fifth month of pregnancy (Lucky me)
Had an oppurtunity to meet few of my friends
With tears we started and here in US back to our normal life...

mm/me both of us miss India very much. It is heavenly in India with our people and friends. Here it is very lonely and boring. No one is compelling us to stay here. But we got into something, from where we could not escape. To be very frank, Everything ends in money.....

Exploring..

After 15months, we had relatives at our home, last 2 weeks. So could not find time to blog.

We visited Brookyln bridge, Statue of liberty, Ellis island, Timesquare, Empire State building, Madame Tussauds, Sheffield island and to American clock and watch museum. Pretty long list isn't it? Except Sheffield island and museum, the rest we finished in 2 days. MM planned everything excellently and we had a very nice time n enjoyed alot.

We even went to Calf pasture beach for fishing. But we were not lucky, as there were low tides, not much water in the beach for fishing. Poor MM was upset. but he used the opportunity to learn the usage of fishing rod from a Jamaican..

Lots and lots of new happenings in my life. Thank god, I got a chance to see & enjoy all these things...

My birthday party..

We started to India on my birthday. As we had to pack the telephone and laptop, i missed every call my relatives and friends made to wish me. Thanks everyone for wishing and blessing me... I was really happy to have you all with me(though not in person, i have you all in my heart)..

As I had lots of work, I dint bother about my birthday. The previous evening MM asked me to come with him to our Friend N's home. He told he wanted to give his GPS to N, so that he can use it while we were in India.. At first, I dint feel like going, as I had work. As MM told, that it will take just a few minutes, i started. I wore an ugly top and loose dull pant as i dint feel like going. I looked awful, as i was tired.

When we went there, we started to discuss about our trip to India.. I forgot all my work and started to chat with our friends and two more friends too came and accompanied us. Suddenly I heard N's wife R screaming and i ran into kitchen. She was holding a cake with lots of candle in it and her hair got burned due to those candles... OOOpps... She should have lost a bunch of hair and the poor girl is/was pregnant too. I felt very bad. N cleaned that place and the cake was all ready for me. I dint feel like cutting the cake.. Scream of R kept echoing in my mind.
Cake was served with ice cream. R served me sweet. Sweet was prepared by my another friend A. MM gave me a pearl necklace, Chocolate and a card. I was happy but the unexpected accident got into my mind again and again.


This is the pearl necklace which my MM gave me..

When i came out from N's house, i was scolding MM for planing such a surprise, amidst such a hurry.. At least he could have asked me to wear nice clothes... Anyway its my mistake. MM is a person who always give surprises. I still remember his visits/surprises on valentines day, birthdays etc before/after marriage.. It means, lots of blogs to come to describe everything, hi hi hi...

Hurray, I am in India..

We had a pleasant journey and we reached India safely on 27th morning. In spite of the few difficult moments, mm was really cooperative all through the journey.

We wanted to give a surprise to everyone here. Instead, we had a shock when we saw our locked home and also our surprise was partially broken by MM's cousin brother.. We left our luggage at our relatives house(MM's cousin). First, we went to my mom's place. Then we went to my another aunt's place in search of my in-laws..They had a pooja at a temple. So everyone in our family were there. So we had an oppurtunity to see everyone. Everyone were happy to see us before the expected date. My mom, dad, MIL, FIL,..... were really happy to have us with them.

To say about MM and mm, MM is/was struggling between 'work at home' and 'SILs marriage' and is/was deprived of time... mm is/was having a great time, but is/was having slight cold and stomach upset like his mother.

Next comes, the theme of our vacation. My SIL's marriage(will write abt it later). Shopping, shopping, shopping, busy doing shopping for the marriage. I dint even find time to update my blog or call my friends and family members. . But today i am free as the mission of our vacation was accomplished yesterday...

Now time for me to blah, how i am enjoying India..

Pleasant but little Tiring
Cool but Very hot
Ganged but exposed

cost of living, population, pollution, vehicle population has shot up beyond my wild imagination..I feel, at this rate 8% economic growth is not enough.

I have lots of things to write but i lack time. Though marriage is over, we have other responsibilities here.

Will again pen things once i find time..

Who said thinking is good >:-(

It was during my college days. I was just married to MM. We were in a small house in ECR. I had to go to college and do all household works. Being a gal, who never helped my mom, i found that very difficult. I was working all day without rest. The travel time(to my college) alone was 3 hrs. Besides, i had to wash, cook, clean, sweep, mop, shop and the list continued.... I used to curse my mom for anything and everything. Whenever i meet her(it happens once in a week) i used to say, u ruined my life, studies, career and everything.. She often laughs at me. I organized things, Like at this time, i will do washing, and during this hr, i will clean home, and during this time, i can study something like that. After coming from college, i feel like sleeping, but will have a load of cloth to wash and vessels to clean. My eyelids beg for a shut down..But i cant give up.. I had to do them. I needed the very important and precious thing, "TIME". I always was short of time. Those are my toughest time.One day i was washing the cloths(cleaning vessel, writing assignments and cooking were the list of work after that) and the house owner's son knocked the door(No not now, Please god, no relatives now!!). As he was knocking the door continuously, i opened the door(Aiyoda, neeya... don't come in), he smiled and came in. (Don't ask me anything) He asked for a glass of water. ("don't you have water at your home").. i gave him the water and he drank. (Go soon, i have lot of work to do) He sat down slowly and idling. (Dont waste my time, I don't even have time to breath") I was little irritated & asked him, what are you doing??? He told me, "Enna pannalamnu yosichitu eruken akka"....P.S1:- That buddhu was 18 yrs old when this happened...

P.S2:- MM is a person, who will always help me in every way. But those days, he was forced to work in his company from morning 7.30 to night 11.30.. So i never felt like sharing work with a person who is fully squeezed already by a MNC..

Vazhi mel vizhi vaithu kathirukireen

It is 11.28 pm here and MM is not at home. He went to meet the auditor to file the tax. mm is sleeping. I am waiting for MM to come. To be honest, i am writing and reading and enjoying blogs along with some black tea.. Enjoying my loneliness hi hi. If MM would have been here, he wont have let me use the computer. I done know what this IT professionals do with their computer. From morning to midnight, he is always with his laptop. He always have some or other things to do with the sys. He even takes the laptop to bathroom. During day times, mm wont let me use the computer. But that is reasonable. what else can you expect from a 16 month kid(who is alone at home). mm slept by 9.45 and i am using the sys for the past 2 hrs(nearly) successfully after a long time(i think after my delivery). Waiting for MM???... (Naaaaaaaaaaah) ;-)

Mean behaviour

I often go to library to take some books for mm and for myself. Sometimes i take dvds too.. Their services are excellent. They have a program called Story telling. The program goes like this. They have a small room for the kids. They will open the room by 10AM. The room will have lots of toys and the kids will be allowed to play with the toys. By 10.30, someone from the library will sing rhymes and tell stories to the kids. The kids can sing along with them. The program is divided in to three types ie from 12 month to 23 month, above 2 yrs and 3 to 5 yrs likewise. As mm is 16 months old, i attend the first type of program.

Today we went to library to attend the kids program for mm. Usually, two ladies comes to play the rhymes and stories. Today some other lady came. From the beginning, she behaved very mean. She was irritated when the kids get down from their parent's lap, she also asked not to feed the kid, when the kids tried to open the book, she grabbed the books from them, when the kids cried, she showed face, she was looking at the clock often to know the time to finish the program. A few parents left the room before the program ends. i was little patient as she dint show face on mm. Though, if MM was in my place, he would have given strong dosage to cure her. i still do not understand how she expected a 12 month old kid to be quiet and calm.
The program is free, but it does not mean that she is doing it for free. She is paid for everything. And we are paying tax from which she is paid. I do not know, how to complain about this to the library management. I have to find out a way, if this happens again....

Ooops..

hmm.. It was 3 in the evening. I was busy, sorting out the things to do and was trying to make mm sleep, while someone opened the main door and entered our home. I was shocked, lot of horror movie scene came to my mind. I called out, "MM is that u?". The reply was a quiet "hmm". O god!!! all my plans are spoiled. hmm. Man proposes but god disposes.
I asked him, why he came so soon. He told that he is having some head ache, dint feel like working. He straight away went to bedroom and slept.. Still i had chances to surprise him. but mm, seeing his father refused to sleep.. O god! how would i roll the gulab jamuns having mm with me. so i dropped gulab jamuns from my list. Then i made this cake. MM does not like cream cake. So i selected this plain cake.While i was making the cake, mm was holding my knees, crying and talking with me. So i went to entertain him. i took some paper and crayons and we started to draw and paint. Some idea came into my mind and we made this..At that time, MM wake up from his nap and came out. I asked him, whether he needs some coffee or tea. he said a NO. He started to play with mm. He could smell the cake. he peeked inside the kitchen but dint ask me anything. i asked him to have some cake. His face was bright. He told me that the cake was good. I was happy, but i dint show it. ;-)
I started to prepare the dinner. And it was this.
When u see this, u may feel to eat it. But all that glitters is not gold. I dont know whether it is a rava idli or a rava stone. i cursed myself for selecting this dish. hmmm.. As MM was very hungry, i gave this to him. MM is a man, who lives to eat and wants to enjoy all different types of foods. he always likes me when i try out something new. He often ask me to join some cooking course to learn different type of food. But i used to say, Google bagawan is there to help me to learn, why waste money. ;-) evil Manjari. I will try out all new type of food(Obviously googling), how bad the new thing be, he will eat without saying a word. Samething happened.. Then i gave the greeting sheet to mm and asked him to give it to his dad. he tried to tare it. While MM, got it from him, a small smile in his face. yeeeeee hop, hop hippadi hop.... This is what i want ;-) hi hi ho ho ha ha... Thus our day got over.

Me and mm went to sleep while MM was watching TV. He still dint talk with me. I was not much happy. Still i started to sleep. While i was sleeping, suddenly i felt someone kissing softly in my forehead saying "I love you dear".. You know who it would be.. It was an awesome feeling and i jumped to sky but i dint reveal it... Evil Manjari ;-)

Nothing contains a "Thing"..

Nothing to write much rite now but stories.
I am dwelling in a small world which consists of my son and MYMAN. Obviously being a homemaker, nothing great occurs to me. Things will happen to my son or MYMAN and I will be enjoying them. I am really happy for what I am and how I spend my time, though it is not productive. But something bothers me. I feel miserable whenever I think about my career. I never had a chance to lead a corporate life.
I got engaged while doing my 2nd year post graduation in computer science. Those were the golden period of my life, when I shared lots of sweet nothings with my fiance along with the college life. Obviously I lost interest in my studies. I felt very safe and was very childish, unaware of the reality. I got married during the holidays and continued my final year. Just like that, I was studying in my class and MYMAN got a job offer from Germany. So he went there leaving me. I finished my exams and project and joined him. When we returned to India after one year, i lost the status "Fresher".
I tried, tried and tried to get a job, finally yielded to the pressures of society. I gave birth to a baby boy. During that time too, I dint wanted to waste my time. I started to do my Management degree through correspondence. But now being in US, I do not have a job, I cannot do my studies, I really feel useless, sitting in front of my laptop.
Though I feel hapless in a few corners of my life, I am really happy for spending most of my time with my son. I could take good care of him and MYMAN. No work stress. I help him explore this world. I am teaching him. He loves me playing with him. I should consider this phase, as "Knowledge transfer phase combined with Production and Maintenance". ha ha hi hi ho ho.. Even Nothing contains a "Thing"..

Ranganatha Temple

When i was in India, somehow i squeeze time to go to Temple often either lonely or with MYMAN. But after coming here, i could not find time and also a temple. I was nagging MYMAN, to take me to a temple and he somehow found a temple in Pomona, Newyork.
Two weeks before, we went there. It was some one hr drive from our home. I was excited to go there. I always go to temple, to get some peace of mind & I feel like geting relieved of my mental stress. Though I am spiritual, I do not attach spirituality towards it. There were lots of Indian in that temple. Everyone praying to god and priests singing mantras. My mind was in peace and I was enjoying the temple, while MYMAN was teaching our son to pray. I was thinking, by this time if our son were in India, he would be doing pooja with my in-laws. Everything happens according to God's will. We spent some time worshiping.
And here comes the interesting part of our trip. The priest asked us to get some prasadam. To our surprise, they served us puliyodharai and thayir sadam. They tasted awesome. We even packed some for dinner. May be, next time we will definitely go to this temple for puliyodharai and thayir sadam, next comes the Ranganathar, peace of mind, blah,blah... ;-)